(C71) [OTAUT-R (Hidaka Sora, Sumeragi Hamao)] Kokoro sumiyaka ni tada egao o. | Just a clear hearted smile. (Fate/hollow ataraxia) [English] {Beast's Lair}
No it doesn't, between Rin exchanging Prana with Rider and Rin exchanging Prana with Red Saber, Caster, or Archer. It's clear as hell that gender doesn't matter.
it depends how you do it. Rin is a far more capable Magus than Shirou, so she doesn't need to use her dick, as is true of every other Master in the series. Only Shirou needs to use his dick.